002 with David Murrow
Look around the church and you will see that about 61% of the congregation is female. Where are the men? Why have they jumped ship? Here’s why.
Christianity is the only world religion that is losing men at a rapid rate. Although, initially, church plants grab men’s attention because of the work to establish them, the men lose interest when it comes time to nurture the congregation that has been built up. Thus, over time, churches tend to feminize in how they present themselves and operate on Sunday morning. This cycle can be broken when churches focus on gathering men by watching their décor, worship music, and preaching style. Pastors find success as a church when they remove the barriers to male participation.
“Men are looking for a toehold. [They ask,] ‘Is this something I want to invest myself in?’”—David
“[Jesus] focused on men. […] A lot of churches are realizing that if you can get the guy in the door, you are going to get the women and children in the deal. There is nothing more attractive to a godly woman than a godly man. If you pack your churches full of godly men—both married and single—the women come in and feel secure by that.” —David
“Masculinity is really inconvenient until you need it.” —David
“When women step up and lead, men graciously and happily step back.” —David
“The secret of church growth has not changed in two thousand years. Get the dudes involved to the point that they want to die for you, and your church will grow.” —David
“Until you get Sunday morning right, there is no point in launching a men’s ministry.” —David
Visit David’s Web site, and get ideas to get a conversation started. Begin the conversation in your church, realizing that God’s work often starts in groups of 2 or 3. Pray about bringing in more men and begin the culture change that will do just that.
Resources mentioned in or related to this episode:
Why Men Hate Going to Church by David Murrow
Camerin Courtney, “Brother, Where Art Thou?” Christianity Today article
NCMM leadership summit
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