003 with Steve Demme
Intro: Have you struggled with where your priorities lie with family, ministry and work? Do you know how to rebalance your priorities? This podcast episode will give you a running start on recognizing faulty priorities so that you can fix them.
As has happened with other men in ministry, Steve Demme experienced a complete undoing that demonstrated his family priorities were not right. For the longest time, Steve thought that he had things balanced well—God, family, ministry—but it took some confrontation from his wife and kids to get past his blind spot. Those in ministry need to challenge one another to remain on track with their families, mainly by staying on track with God. Steve learned that the best way to keep his family his priority is to spend plenty of time with God, soaking in His unconditional love and learning to walk, not run. The more you spend time with God, the more approachable you are to your family so that they can share their feelings on your relationship.
“I defined my relationship with my God based on how much I did for Him. And I felt [that] the more I did, the more well-pleased He’d be with me. The more well-pleased with me, the more He’d love me. […] I was acting differently from my belief system.”—Steve
“I had to confront my stuff. That has been the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do, but it has produced the best fruit.”—Steve
“Let God love you.”—Steve
“God often uses our weaknesses because we think this is our strength. He says, ‘No, no, no, I need your weaknesses. I’ve got plenty of strength.’”—Steve
“If we’re not real about our own struggles, how are we going to help people?”—Steve
Marinate in the Gospel. Ask God to search you, and wait on God. Learn to be still, and let God talk to your heart.
Resources mentioned in or related to this episode:
Knowing God’s Love
Crisis to Christ
The Spiritual Danger of Doing Good Peter Greer
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality Peter Scazzero
Discovering the Mind of a Woman Ken Nair
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