Achieving High Performance Friendship
Far too many men are lonely; do not have friends; do not know how to make friends. These are words that ministers and leaders of men’s ministries often hear today. A recent survey of over 1000 pastors, men’s ministry leaders and other ministers revealed that 57% suffer from isolation or loneliness; 53% do not have at least one Christian friend with whom they can share their deepest secrets.
God intended for us to have friends as Jesus Christ did during His time on earth.
Indeed, John Vawter and Jim Wetherbe believe Jesus Christ is the model for friendships among men. In John 15, Jesus told the disciples that He no longer called them servants but friends. He then said that everything the Father revealed to Him He would reveal to them. Jim and John see this as “intimacy”. Jesus was intimate with His closest followers in that He was comfortable letting them see Him in all life situations. He allowed them to remain close to Him when He was praying/grieving/struggling in the Garden of Gethsemane.
Achieving High Performance Friendship: A Book for Men was the beginning of the ministry. The response has been so compelling that a workbook and a video series are in the making. Jim and John are doing radio interviews and speaking at conferences. Their purpose in this ministry is to help pastors help the men in their churches know how to develop friendships based on the model of Christ. Men can achieve and cultivate “high performance”, deep, authentic friendship by applying the over-arching lessons drawn from the way Christ treated His male friends during His human experience on earth.