Where Are The Men?
The statistics are astounding:
- 90% of the boys raised in church will abandon it by their 20th birthday – most don’t return.
- The average man accepts the reality of Jesus Christ but sees no value in going to church.
- 90% of men believe in God and call themselves Christian, but only 1/3 attend church on Sunday.
- Over 90% of Christian men have never shared their faith with another man.
- If a man (the husband, the father, God’s PointMan) is the first person in a home to become a Christian, there is a 93% probability that the rest of the family will follow.
Many churches are declining and families are falling apart because men have stopped participating, growing, and leading. Sadly, as Paul proclaimed in I Corinthians Chapter 3, some men have never gotten beyond the milk of the Word in their walk with God. Although milk in itself is not bad, It is our job as Pastors and Men’s Ministry Leaders to move our men from the milk to the meat of God’s Word by Reaching , Challenging, and Equipping men to Learn, Grow, and Lead.
As we face uncertain times in our world today, it is evident that the hope for today’s churches, families, and marriages is to be found in committed Christian men who are willing to step up and fulfill their God ordained role as leaders in their homes, churches and communities. One of the great men of the Bible reminds me of the kind of leader we need in our contemporary culture. That man is Nehemiah. He is one of my favorite Old Testament characters because he was one of the most intelligent, inspirational, and influential spiritual leaders of his time. He was not without his flaws, but in spite of these flaws he was a real champion for the cause of Christ. A Real Man of God.
Being a REAL Man of God
What makes a Real Man of God? To me, it is a man who is willing to stand up for the principles and standards God has laid out in His Word. In a day of amorality, we as men need to provide leadership by declaring unashamedly the absolutes of God. The qualifications laid down in I Timothy 3 and Titus 2 for Elders and leaders should be the qualifications for us all. You and I are called to a higher standard in our walk with God. It is to be the standard of Godly Character for every Christian man. Our lives must reflect Jesus Christ to each and every person we meet or associate with. Our children and grandchildren need to view us as men of God, and they will if we uphold God’s principles in our lives, and challenge them to live by them as well.
My question still stands. Where are the men? Men who will lift up God’s standards at any cost. Where are the husbands and fathers who will step up and accept the challenge to live their lives according to the Biblical guidelines in Timothy and Titus and follow through with their God -given responsibility as men? We need to ask ourselves. Are we up to the challenge? Understand this, however. If we decide to respond to this challenge and take up the Cross of Christ as men, then we need to be willing to pay the price. Jesus did. He set out to accomplish the work God had ordained Him to do and Jesus paid with His life. Yet He changed the world just as He changed you and me.
God has a purpose for your very existence and a work for you to do that only you can accomplish. The Bible tells us that this work was ordained for you even before you were born. I cannot determine what that is for you, but I will pray God will give you a clear vision for influencing your world. And know this. You can make a difference in the lives of those around you.
In the words of Henry Varley, “The world has yet to see what God can do with and for and through and in a man who is fully and wholly consecrated to Him.”
Dr. Ron R. Fraser